Wedding… To be or not to be?

I have assisted to several weddings, including those of my close girlfriends and my family members. And here is what I think about it (it’s just my point of view, you don’t need to agree with it).

First question that comes to my mind: Is it really worth it?

1. You are preparing the ceremony at least a year before (in case of pregnancy a turbo mode is activated). Choosing the place, the menu, thinking about the animation, the invitations, people to invite. Fight with your beloved one, with relatives, be about to cancel everything, fight again… If there are couples who made it through without all this – my respect.
2. Wedding day. Even more stress. The makeup master is late. You were not able to sleep the night before. You are still worried about the details and whether everything is going to be ok. Pictures… You need to take lots of pictures with this love-2-love posing while the others are just getting drunk. You have no time to eat as every 15 mins there is someone who comes to see you, or you need to take pictures again. Since you did not sleep the night before and you have spent the whole day on your legs running around, obviously you are super tired. One glass of Champaign – and you are done. Drunkey drunk. But don’t forget to smile on the camera. Tchin!
3. Many people. People who you don’t know. Sister of the cousin of the step mother of your husband. Nice to meet you, hey (smiiiile!)! By the way, it’s the first and the last time you see her in your life. And of course, everyone will tell you: you are the most wonderful couple and the most beautiful bride I have ever seen in my life! Bullshit. Many of them will be discussing you and your wedding and be sure that they will find the things to say shit about (oh this jealous human nature, trust me…)

Well, I assume that this reflexion might seem exaggerated. Yes it is! Sure there are couples where love is above all and nothing else matters. But as I said, that’s my point of view. Of course, wedding day is a once in lifetime event (well, for some people it can be two three etc. repetitions). And of course, it’s a celebration of love and bla bla bla. Sometimes, you cannot skip it (parents will be insisting and won’t understand). But. Just. Think. About. It.

Frankly speaking, it’s an investment in drunk relatives and friends. A celebration, imposed by social rules. You will have good love-2-love pictures in THE dress but it’s not even sure that you won’t divorce in a couple of years (sorry for my straight talk).

So, what to do?

Nowadays there are more and more people who just make a reception once the marriage is registered (like this you can still wear THE dress and invite people who do really you care about) and go directly on a honeymoon. Bingo!

Up to me, my ideal wedding will be: register the thing, have a super fancy expensive dinner with our families (mine & his only), celebrate the event with best friends in a club (big celebration with the closest ones), send wedding compliments to the people we want to inform about and… HONEYMOON!! Bisous!

I must admit that this is how I am thinking for the moment based on my observations. I am still single and maybe when I meet this very special person I will catch that ‘wedding fever’ and will do all that silly stuff that I have just described as well… But I really HOPE that in my case my dream wedding will be exactly as I want it to be. Simple. Sincere. With no fake smiles, no artificial glitter and only real emotions and people I want to see.

Thanks for reading this. What are your thoughts?